verbal abuse is one of the issues in our society destroying healthy interactions between people, for some reasons we tends to turn a blind eye on the issue and its effect on another person, the effects that are just as serious as one of physical abuse.
In a relationship, verbal abuses are dangerous and can be a factual cause of a toxic bond, ruining communication morals between the two people. this kind of abuse is not only valgus language but can be also implied with sarcasm; slamming doors; disgusted looks ;emotional blackmail and an act of jealous including being constantly accused of cheating
Statistically, experiencing all these implications of verbal abuse in a relationship may mount to depression; misplaced guilt; mood swing and post traumatic stress disorder which in all produce trauma and devastate person’s quality of life, you don’t want that to your sweetheart partner.
The systematic use of verbal abuse is mutual in both parties in a relationship, apparently women engage in as much emotionally abusive as men.Women usually manipulates their partner with dread of failure as provider and protector and often use gaslighting, of which is a orderly effort to make you question your version of events; it can make you apologize for things that aren’t your fault and subsequently make you more expressively dependent on the abuser.
Although arguments and disagreement are cliche behavior in relationships but sometimes there a strange ones which comes as a distinction between normal and an abnormal arguments
Examples of what a normal disagreement look like:
· They don’t dissolve into name calling or personal attack
· They don’t happen everyday
· Arguments revolve around a basic issue, they aren’t character assassinations
· You listen and try to understand the other position, even if you angry
Behavior which can institute a verbal abuse
· They insult or attempt to humiliate
· They frequently yell or scream at you
· Arguments take you by surprise, but you get blamed for starting them
· They try to make you feel guilty and position themselves as victim
You should never avoid signs of verbal abuse in your relationship because eventually it will escalate, and when it does; I won’t end good. When a person is constantly verbally abused anger rages till the patience is out of space, and that how we have physical abuse. Our problem solving skills vary in a big way; one may think and prefer many other solutions but before laying a hand try these
· Stop engaging in inadequate and unreasonable arguments, because whenever a person attack you with an instant argument just keep in mind that it an attack and all those accusing and defense words said were thought and probably jotted down in power points a while ago just uttered now, so it will be like bringing a knife in a gun fight. even if you try to keep up you won’t win.
· Try to increase compassion; the abusive relationship lacks effective communication and affection. Compassion can be increased by healthy talks which nourish our relationship with a person, by that way compassion develop a skin to keep away tension and anger in between
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